Relational Bullying
"She had barely introduced herself when Brianna and Mackenzie gave her a code name and started calling her Harriet the Hairy *%$. They told everyone Jenny was kissing the boys in the in the woods behind the soccer field. Jenny knew that being called a *&% was the worst thing in the world, no matter where you lived. No one was even kissing yet. It was the lowest of the low" (Simmons, 2002, p.26).
Overview of Relational Bulling
Childhood bullying is often noticed when physical signs, like bruises and cuts, are present. Although we generally can see the signs of physical bullying, there are other harmful forms of bullying that occur in childhood circles. An even more painful type of bullying is one that hurts a child on the inside. This relational bullying is a hidden type of aggression ( or hostile behavior) where peers harm "other through purposeful manipulation and damaging of their peer relationship" (Crick & Grotpeter, 1995).
Types of Relational Bullying
1) Stonewalling: The Silent Treatment:
Stonewalling or the silent treatment I where people ignore one another. If two children are angry with another child, they may choose to go about their business, ignoring the other child completely.
2) Exclusions from the group:
Exclusion from a group is where a single member can be cut out from all activities and participation in a group. This is slightly different from the silent treatment, because it goes a step further from ignoring by making sure a child knows that he or she isn't allowed in the group.
3) Spreading rumors and gossip:
Children will often say things about other people, behind their backs, or even worse within earshot. Hearing it through the grapevine can easily skew true stories, and ruin children's reputations.
4) Taunting:
Taunting is another form of spoken relational bullying, but it's said to a person's face. Taunting continues and even flourished in the face of distress.
5) Making Friendship Conditional:
It is often notice when the phrase, "I'll only be your friend if..." is used. By making friendship conditional, it makes children overly cautious around their friends; those they should be most comfortable with.
Overview of Relational Bulling
Childhood bullying is often noticed when physical signs, like bruises and cuts, are present. Although we generally can see the signs of physical bullying, there are other harmful forms of bullying that occur in childhood circles. An even more painful type of bullying is one that hurts a child on the inside. This relational bullying is a hidden type of aggression ( or hostile behavior) where peers harm "other through purposeful manipulation and damaging of their peer relationship" (Crick & Grotpeter, 1995).
Types of Relational Bullying
1) Stonewalling: The Silent Treatment:
Stonewalling or the silent treatment I where people ignore one another. If two children are angry with another child, they may choose to go about their business, ignoring the other child completely.
2) Exclusions from the group:
Exclusion from a group is where a single member can be cut out from all activities and participation in a group. This is slightly different from the silent treatment, because it goes a step further from ignoring by making sure a child knows that he or she isn't allowed in the group.
3) Spreading rumors and gossip:
Children will often say things about other people, behind their backs, or even worse within earshot. Hearing it through the grapevine can easily skew true stories, and ruin children's reputations.
4) Taunting:
Taunting is another form of spoken relational bullying, but it's said to a person's face. Taunting continues and even flourished in the face of distress.
5) Making Friendship Conditional:
It is often notice when the phrase, "I'll only be your friend if..." is used. By making friendship conditional, it makes children overly cautious around their friends; those they should be most comfortable with.
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